August 24, 2022
If the idea of small talk makes you cringe, you aren’t alone.
Very few people enjoy it, while others find it excruciating. But did you know that small talk accounts for nearly one-third of our speech?
In other words, small talk plays a significant role in how we communicate. Still, if you’re the type to jump through all the hoops to avoid it, you might be preventing yourself from meeting new people and creating long-lasting friendships.
Small talk is unavoidable, so it might be best to accept its normalcy and learn how to improve. Besides, small talk is like any other skill; the more you practice, the better you’ll get.
Don’t underestimate the power of small talk because one study from the University of Chicago reported that engaging in small talk improves our well-being by making us feel connected to others.
No matter how uninteresting and awkward small talk is, small talk is, in fact, a bigger deal than we think, especially when it comes to human affairs.
Small talk is a polite conversation about things or topics considered unimportant. Typically, such exchanges occur between people who don’t know each other very well.
Unfortunately, we often overlook the real motive behind the empty conversation.
The actual topics of small talk don’t really matter. Instead, small talk aims to open up a conversation with others, bridge a gap between people who don’t know each other very well, and open up a portal that may lead to more profound and meaningful conversations.
In most cases, bland pleasantries and mundane conversation starters are necessary. But most importantly, they are there to create opportunities to engage and connect.
Small talk is a skill anyone can develop. It doesn’t have to be weird or awkward. Recognize that small talk is normal, and it’s how we engage with people we don’t know yet.
Small talk can present several opportunities to connect with others. That’s why we should all embrace small talk instead of avoiding it.
People who excel at small talk are experts at making others feel included, valued, and comfortable. These quick and casual conversations are a great way to connect to people and allow others to feel connected to you.
Besides, people who are good at small talk are often great leaders, confident, and able to form new friendships more easily.
Small talk is a natural way for people to connect. Resenting and avoiding unproductive banter and superficial conversations may prevent you from meeting new people and creating new relationships.
Instead of talking about the weather, we all prefer to have deep and meaningful conversations but sometimes, getting there is not as straightforward as we’d like. In this case, small talk is a great way to start a conversation.
Don’t underestimate the power of small talk. In a world where we crave connection, small talk is just a tiny obstacle we may need to overcome to feel connected.
“The key to being good at small talk is to give attention to the other person without thinking about what you’ll say next.”
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